One of the lessons I've learned through our adoption roller coaster....oops, I mean journey, is that
I can do hard things.
It can be painful.
It isn't easy.
I stress out and worry.
I cry.
A lot.
But, I still have made it through. I wish I didn't have so many examples, but I do:
-We went to Florida to adopt a baby the December before we adopted Kaden. I was in the operating room for the C-section. I was the first one to hold the baby. We were there a few days. Its a long (sad) story, but we flew home without a baby.
-We survived a contested adoption...one that was contested just a couple of weeks shy of a year.
-We had a birth mother not be completely honest with us, and have had to live with some of the consequences of her choices.
-We had someone that we loved (and thought loved us as much) make an adoption plan for her baby, and didn't choose us.
-We had a baby pretty much fall into our laps. After a LONG night, we knew she wasn't ours and had to say no. (I'm sure people thought we were crazy, and I don't blame them or even disagree...how often does a baby just fall into your lap as you're hoping to adopt?! But, we knew she wasn't ours.)
Would I wish these situations on anyone?
For sure not.
But, if we've had to go through them, I'm grateful to know that as we face hard stuff in the future,
we'll make it.
We're not alone.
What a huge relief and blessing.
It can be painful.
It isn't easy.
I stress out and worry.
I cry.
A lot.
But, I still have made it through. I wish I didn't have so many examples, but I do:
-We went to Florida to adopt a baby the December before we adopted Kaden. I was in the operating room for the C-section. I was the first one to hold the baby. We were there a few days. Its a long (sad) story, but we flew home without a baby.
-We survived a contested adoption...one that was contested just a couple of weeks shy of a year.
-We had a birth mother not be completely honest with us, and have had to live with some of the consequences of her choices.
-We had someone that we loved (and thought loved us as much) make an adoption plan for her baby, and didn't choose us.
-We had a baby pretty much fall into our laps. After a LONG night, we knew she wasn't ours and had to say no. (I'm sure people thought we were crazy, and I don't blame them or even disagree...how often does a baby just fall into your lap as you're hoping to adopt?! But, we knew she wasn't ours.)
Would I wish these situations on anyone?
For sure not.
But, if we've had to go through them, I'm grateful to know that as we face hard stuff in the future,
we'll make it.
We're not alone.
What a huge relief and blessing.
1 comment:
Oh Shelby!
I'm so sorry you went through those things. I can only imagine the pain. You are a survivor. You are right, you CAN do hard things.
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